Building Resilience: Empowering Families Through Coaching and Collaboration

By Michael Tauscher

Navigating the complexities of childhood can be a daunting task for parents and educators alike. At University School of Milwaukee, Laura LaFave, our Preschool and Lower School counselor, has made it her mission to bridge the gap between school and home, ensuring that every child thrives academically, socially, and emotionally. Her journey, expertise, and ongoing commitment to professional growth are a testament to the importance of collaborative support systems in education.

A Counselor's Path

LaFave's professional journey began as a middle school math teacher in Dayton, Ohio. While teaching, she pursued her master’s degree in school counseling, driven by a desire to work more closely with students and their families. After relocating to Wisconsin to be closer to family, she joined USM, bringing her expertise to our close-knit, independent school community. Here, she has cultivated a dynamic role that includes one-on-one student counseling, parent support, and classroom collaboration. “What excites me most,” she shared, “is the opportunity to work directly with children and parents, helping them navigate challenges and celebrate successes as a team.”

Empowering Parents Through Coaching

In her dedication to professional development, LaFave is currently pursuing a parent coaching certification through the Parent Coaching Institute. This year-long program equips her with tools to support families effectively, emphasizing a coaching approach that views parents as the experts of their own families.

“Parent coaching is about facilitating reflection, asking meaningful questions, and helping parents recognize what is already working well,” LaFave explained. A core component of this approach is "appreciative inquiry," a framework that encourages focusing on strengths and framing questions in a positive light.

One critical aspect of the training is self-care. “If parents can’t take care of themselves, it’s challenging to be their best selves for their children,” she noted. By modeling and encouraging self-care, Laura helps parents find balance and resilience in their roles.

Technology and Parenting

LaFave’s coursework also delves into the impact of technology on family dynamics. Research, including studies cited by the American Academy of Pediatrics, highlights how excessive screen time can hinder children’s brain development and self-awareness. “Children need time to sit with their thoughts and learn who they are internally,” LaFave emphasized. Strategies like creating “no-technology zones” or limiting background noise from screens can foster more meaningful interactions and self-discovery.

LaFave’s guidance extends to helping families craft personalized technology plans that align with their values and goals. By sharing insights and practical tips, she empowers parents to create environments where technology serves as a tool rather than a distraction. She also shared this American Academy of Pediatrics Media Plan to help families navigate technology use at home.

Supporting Families in Unique Ways

LaFave’s work at USM extends beyond coaching and technology discussions. She meets with students individually and in groups, collaborates with teachers, and communicates with parents to ensure every child feels supported. Whether addressing a classroom concern or responding to an emotional event like the loss of a pet, LaFave balances immediate needs with long-term strategies. “Every family and child is unique,” LaFave says. “By working together as a team, we can ensure children feel loved and cared for in every aspect of their lives.”

The Role of Community

One of USM’s strengths is its strong sense of community. LaFave highlights the importance of collaboration among parents, teachers, and staff. Programs like Wildcat coffees provide opportunities for parents to share experiences and learn from one another, fostering a supportive network. “Reaching out for help can be challenging,” LaFave acknowledged, “but it’s a vital step in navigating difficult situations. At USM, we’re here to support one another, ensuring no one feels alone in their journey.”

Words of Wisdom

For parents facing challenges or uncertainties, LaFave offers three pieces of advice:

1. Reach out for support. Whether through the school or broader community, asking for help is a sign of strength.
2. Prioritize self-care. Taking time for yourself enables you to be more present and effective as a parent.
3. Stay positive and patient. Children are constantly growing and changing. Celebrating small victories and approaching challenges with empathy can make a significant difference.

Laura LaFave’s work at USM exemplifies the power of combining expertise with compassion. By supporting parents and children alike, she reinforces the idea that education is a partnership. Her efforts remind us that, together, we can navigate the complexities of parenting and childhood, fostering a community where every child can thrive.

About Michael Tauscher

Michael Tauscher has served as the head of Preschool and Lower School at University School of Milwaukee since 2015. Born and raised on a family-owned farm in Pulaski, Wisconsin, he holds a bachelor’s degree in elementary education and a master’s degree in educational leadership. With 24 years of experience as an educator; 17 years as an administrator, Michael has worked in early childhood, elementary, and middle school settings, including teaching 3rd, 4th, and 5th grades and gaining international teaching experience in Kyoto, Japan.